It has now been weeks since our new sheet purchase. The sheets have been changed, washed and changed again. We have become accustomed to them. The new-ness has worn off. My experience with our sheets reminds me of a conversation I had a long time ago. A friend of mine shared with me that she had invested literally thousands of dollars into her bedroom. She had bought 600 count egyptian cotton sheets and all the accessories. She had tried numerous scents on her pillowcase. She had lit candles and even tried electric candles that could burn all night. But no matter what she invested in her bedroom decor, the nightmares would not go away. She would sleep in her near perfect bed with the scent of lavender and the softness of silk but she still could not sleep through the night. What she realized was that it wasn't her bedsheets that were haunted.... it was her! It took her hours of talk-therapy, journalling, group and education to kill the demon that had taken up residence in her. Henry Cloud says that circumstances only change your mood by 10% for the good or for the bad. The sheets can only change our pillowtalk by 10% and once the new-ness wears off, we are left with the same talk. We have to do the hard work on our hearts to change our emotional set-point. Once our emotional set point changes our pillowtalk changes and everything else that happens between the sheets will change also. The bed linens are only a circumstance. It is ME who has to change: My thinking, my discplines, my choices and my HEART.
